I’ve been following a really exciting series on “The Dark Side Of Leadership” focusing on different temperaments of leaders strengths and in particular how to overcome their weaknesses.
I don’t believe in being boxed, but I do agree there are certain traits that human beings share in groups. So naturally, I went on a mission to research what it said about me. I did the test. I had done a number of such tests in my life, especially during the time when I was trying to figure out a career path. The last of these was the Myers Briggs Indicator which placed me under the INTJs. I was interested to see on how different these results would turn out.
Results: 48% Choleric, 41% Melancholic 8% Sanguine 3% Phlegmatic. Surprised? – Nah! I think by now I’ve kinda figured myself out and pretty comfortable in my skin 🙂 .
However this did get me thinking about my relationships, with family friends, work mates and even the kind of guys I attract or am I attracted to. It also helped explain certain things about myself that often causes people to not really know how to deal with my need for space, lone time yet my confidence and independence, consequently labeling this trait as arrogant and anti social. It’s purely because I’m not a sanguine – happy go lucky, I don’t really try to fit in. I’m generally happy with intimate genuine relationships and generally once I have enough information and skill in something, I see no need not to be confident. Anyway, I digress. Back to the topic, this is what they say had to say about the ChlorMel.
The ChlorMel “The choleric/melancholy is an extremely industrious and capable person. The optimism and practicality of the choleric overcome the tendency toward moodiness of the melancholy, making the ChlorMel both goal-oriented and detailed. Such a person usually does well in school, possesses a quick, analytical mind, yet is decisive. She develops into a thorough leader, the kind whom one can always count on to do an extraordinary job. Never take her on in debate unless you are assured of your facts, for she will make mincemeat of you, combining verbal aggressiveness and attendance to detail.” (LaHaye, 1984,pp.25-26) “This person is extremely competitive and forceful in all that she does. She is a dogged researcher and is usually successful, no matter what kind of business she pursues. This personality type probably make the best natural leader. General George S. Patton, the great commander of the U.S. Third Army in World War II who drove the German forces back to Berlin, was probably a ChlorMel.”(LaHaye, 1984, p.26) “Equally as great as her strengths are her weaknesses. She is apt to be autocratic, a dictator type who inspires admiration and hate simultaneously. She is usually a quick-witted talker whose sarcasm can devastate others. She is a natural-born crusader whose work habits are irregular and long.” (LaHaye,1984, p.26) “A ChlorMel harbours considerable hostility and resentment, and unless she enjoys a good love relationship with her parents, she will find interpersonal relationships difficult, particularly with her family. No man is more apt to be an overly strict disciplinarian than the ChlorMel father. He combines the hard-to-please tendency of the choleric and the perfectionism of the melancholy.”